Understanding PATTERNS | Your Patterns Are Not You — But They Run You
- Sia
- Apr 9
- 6 min read
Toxic Side Effects of being irregular with healing
(why I teach my clients to self heal)
Patterns and how to understand them
We live life in patterns. These patterns are formed between the ages of 0-8. As kids, we take everything as if that's how the world is run.
For Example: If I have heard my mother crib about my father, it will become my pattern to be a cribbing partner unless...I consciously choose to change it later in life.
Another Example: If I have seen my father repeatedly say, 'Money doesn't grow on trees', it will become my pattern to have a very stingy mindset around money.
Yet another example: If I experienced a friend of mine leaving me to become another girl's friend and this is left unresolved/unhealed/unaddressed by my psyche, I will develop a belief that '...ultimately, I'll be left for someone else'.
Sometimes, we experience something more than once and start thinking that it's how things are, will be and...
this is what gives birth to a pattern.
More Examples:
Some people have a pattern of always blaming others for what's happening in their lives.
Some people have a pattern of always feeling like LIFE IS UNFAIR & OTHERS GET MORE THAN THEM.
Some people have a pattern of always finding faults in others.
Some people have a pattern of always allowing themselves to get bullied but blaming others for it.
Some people have a pattern of not coping well with life's changes and always blaming circumstances.
Some people have a pattern of always feeling LACK despite the ABUNDANCE.
Some people have a pattern of always feeling LACK feeling convinced that there's barely any abundance around them.
Some people have a pattern of always looking for love and validation on the outside instead of loving, validating and appreciating themselves.
Working through patterns & What happens if you don’t
Firstly, you need to sit with yourself and recognise the patterns in your life because if you fail to do so... you're taking that much extra time to achieve what you're here to achieve.
On a soul level, we all have work to do, virtues to master and spiritually grow.
This life might feel like a reality and spirituality might seem like an illusion but it's the other way round. This body, this life time is just a role we are playing to master virtues such as: acceptance, kindness, joy, forgiveness, letting go, not taking things personally, accountability, responsibility, being happy for others, coming in ONE CONSCIOUSNESS, etc.
If you're stuck in a pattern you waste decades of your life chasing the unnecessary stuff (money/fame/recognition/validation/milestones such as a promotion at work or marriage-kids, etc.) without being able to successfully learn what your soul intended on learning all along. This results in an "unsuccessful lifetime" and ... your soul decides to repeat roadblocks in the next birth in order to bring you back on track- soul's mission.
In astrology, we can see a person's chart and tell what that pending lesson from the past lifetime is. It's called checking one's Atmakaraka.
Working with a healer versus Self Healing
When we sit with a healer and work on our limiting patterns we understand the negative beliefs that we were operating from.
Same happens when we come to healer with a trigger. A trigger takes us to a pattern and a negative belief system that was serving as an obstacle to go forward.
Example: A girl once came to me to drop weight. No matter what she tried, she was unable to. When I dug her mind, we understood that she had associated weight with power. The heavier I am, the stronger I will be. The stronger I am, no one will ever walk all over me. Growing up she saw two of her family members- one petite and one heavy have clashes and the heavier one always "won" (ended up ruling over the petite one). Now, these things can't be established in a regular day to day setting but in a session.
Another girl had come to me with a similar issue of not being able to drop the weight. She had all the time, money and resources, but was unable to take the rightful measures. When she allowed me to dig deep, she confessed that losing weight would result in her attracting male attention which she didn't want because she was and wanted to be single and happy for a while. Consciously, she knew she could be slim and still CHOOSE TO BE SINGLE, but subconsciously, something else had been set in place. She didn't even know she had this block but when she was in a theta brain wave, calm, zen, relaxed, this came up.
Working with a healer can be done once a week or once in two weeks but if you LEARN how to dig your mind, you can do this on a daily basis. I call this mental hygeine work. We clean our body, mouth daily so why not our mind?
This is the reason, I teach healing and provide constant support and guidance to my students who also happen to be my clients. I have them do the self work and come to me FOR MORE. This helps us achieve success in the highest and best way. The more we work on digging the mind to clean up our belief system, the better quality life we end up living.
Resistance & push-back
A lot of the times, clients experience a lot of resistance and push-back to work with a healer/therapist/coach in the form of:
I'm fine, I don't need healing
Nothing is wrong with me
I can help myself
I know how to improve on my own
I am a work in progress
I don't want to depend on a therapist or a healer or a coach
I am self reliant
I am independent
I don't want to create dependency on anyone
I am not weak
Healing is for weak people
My emotions are in control
I am sorted
Everything is good
Life is life, ups and downs are normal...
etc.
All of the aforementioned are BLOCKS and a huge misapprehension.
PLEASE break through these effective immediately.
Healing/Coaching sessions never create a dependency; in fact they help you understand your subconcious mind. Consciously we all are smart and wise but life is not run by the conscious. All our patterns are made in the subconscious and 90-95% of your life is being led subconsciously.Driving, eating, drinking, swimming are basic things that come from the subconscious... but thinking (thought patterns) most certainly do.
A girl might come and tell me that she wants to get married and is just not able to find the right guy but 20 minutes with her (if she cooperates and allows me to dig deep), I can prove to her that she's commitment phobic or has marriage related fears that are crippling her and ensuring that she repels marriage.
Working with a Coach helps you UNCOVER the hidden patterns of your mind
that you, yourself had no flying clue about.
Revelations like these help you address past issues that are sitting dormant in your psyche.
Some people believe that if they start healing & coaching, a can of worms will be opened and they won't know how to channel so much pain/trauma. The idea of processing emotions overwhelms them. This is when you need to understand that this is urgent. You cannot live a normal life with issues pent up. Pent up issues cause diseases such as- arthritis, cancer, kidney failure, skin problems, hormonal imbalance, auto-immune, etc. I personally strongly recommend ThetaHealing of all healing modalities because in ThetaHealing, we know how to address an issue, resolve it and close a past wound WITHIN 60 minutes. We ThetaHealers are trained to not leave a person till wounds are closed and client FEELS resolved.
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The only thing that matters: GROWTH
In life, no matter what happens, the only thing we need to be focussed on is growth. The fastest way to grow is to understand your mind.
How about you watch this video and come to me with a list of patterns from your life that you would like to shift?
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Love, Sia
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