Dear Readers,
Thank you for investing your time to read & update yourself on a plethora of things I have to share with y’all. This blog post on unconscious loyalty to your parents is going to be short but full of challenges for you.
When we speak about loyalty or even hear the word, positive vibes take over our mind, right?
The word had such a warm, secure, positive connotation to it, right?
But
BUT
When loyalty becomes unconscious (stemming from subconscious mind), it can get dangerously TRICKY.
How?
Well, if you are unconsciously loyal to someone, you will BARELY even second guess their thoughts, opinions and beliefs. You will seek their validation and get hooked onto it. Even if you achieved something that means a lot to you (say a certification on Healing) and if this person (towards whom you have an unconscious loyalty), if they aren’t a fan of healing or don’t know much about it to value it, you will automatically START downplaying your achievement. The Healing Certification which meant a lot to you will suddenly seem unimportant or irrelevant.
THIS IS UNHEALTHY AND DETRIMENTAL to your growth! Now let’s speak about the unconscious loyalty you have FOR SURE (unless you are constantly healing and working on this with a Coach) towards your
PARENTS!
Unconscious Loyalty to Parents
Parenting is a huge responsibility, a privilege and an opportunity. It’s a golden chance to raise another human, re-write subconscious codes (beliefs) for a soul who has chosen to reincarnate through us. Some people become parents when they aren’t mature enough to write uplifting codes- meaning, they end up writing limiting codes aka limiting beliefs in their child’s pysche. A limiting belief is a belief that limits our growth. An example of that would be –
No Pain No Gain.
When a parent (or a teacher) wires a child’s psyche with this belief, they are telling the child that in order to gain (anything) in life, you have to go through pain.
Don’t be surprised if this child then ends up having to “struggle” to gain/get anything in life with ease. A common pattern of pain and struggle is always present in their life.
Why?
Because they were told so by their parents. Parents probably intended the child to see growth opportunity even in pain (or discomfort) and be a hard worker, etc. But it can translate in many different ways if not well explained.
This is just a small example but the idea of unconscious loyalty is ginormous. Our subconscious mind is open to everything our parents have to say because they are our first role models.
We learn to perceive life through them.
They shape our world view.
Whether our world view is twisted or divine depends on our parents.
That’s why, parents are suggested to walk the path of self growth, self healing long before they choose to raise kids.
If you want to be a GOOD PARENT,
WORK ON YOURSELF, your triggers! Heal yourself, get a Coach who can guide you through this process. It’s high time we all understand the value of self help. One shouldn’t only get a Coach/Healer when they’re going through a low phase, but also when they are going through a high or neutral phase. Because, when you’re neutral, a Coach will be able to lift you to a higher stage and when you’re at a high stage, the Coach will propel you up like a rocket who’s aiming to reach the moon!
Even though you think you don’t carry their beliefs… YOU. PROBABLY. DO!
Unconscious loyalty to our parents puts us in a situation where we take their beliefs as our own subconsciously, even if we disagree consciously. So you might mock their belief or say you disagree but only when you are working in a deep meditative state with your Coach/Healer will you be able to realize…
Oh Shoot, I think like my mother/father…
Examples of such beliefs are-
If you laugh too much, you’ll have to cry too much.
(bahut hasse toh bahut rona padhega)
You won’t get everything in life, you have to compromise.
(sabko sab kuch nahi milta hai, compromise karna padhta hai)
In order to achieve something, you have to lose something.
(kuch paane ke liye kuch khona padhta hai)
Money is the root of all evil.
(paisa bahut buri cheez hai)
Don’t run after money.
(Paise ke peeche mat bhaago)
Children stunt your growth in life.
(Ek baar bacchche ho haye, toh life khatam. Jo karna hai apne liye abhi hi kar lo. Baad mein mat rona)
Diabetes is incurable.
(diabetes ek baar ho gayi toh phir bus)
Old age means health problems for sure.
(budhaape mein toh problem hoti hi hain)
Daughters don’t belong to us truly. They have to go away one day!
(betiyaan parayi hoti hain)
Sons after marriage belong to their wives. We will lose our sons to their wives.
(bete toh shaadi ke baad biwi ke ho jaate hain)
If you don’t have a son, you don’t have a future.
If you don’t have a son, your future is full of loneliness.
(beta nahi hua toh future mein akelapan hi hai)
These are just a few examples but trust me, this list is endless.
Challenge for you is to think everything you’ve heard your parents say again and again growing up and think, is that belief limiting me?
Does it come in the way of my growth?
If yes, then it’s time to work with a professional to
>firstly, challenge that belief enough to WEAKEN it
>secondly, of course have your healer/coach REMOVE that belief from your psyche
>finally, REPLACE that limiting belief with an uplifting one with the help of your certified healer/coach who are TRAINED to understand and REWRITE subconscious lingo.
Love,
Sia (Aakansha)
{I am a certified
Life Coach, Holistic Health Coach, Hormone Health Coach, ThetaHealing Teacher & Practitioner. Drawing Analysis & Metaphor Therapy Student.}
You can book in a session with me anytime.
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